There is always something to be grateful for – Like My Husband

There are just so many things I am grateful for and I wanted to take some time to note those things through a few posts, not just a reminder to myself but also for some inspiration for you, to remind yourself of the things you can and should be grateful for.

My Family – My Husband

First and foremost, I am grateful for my family. I do have the most amazing life partner….my husband and father to our 14-month-old son.

My husband and I are quite the opposites, in that I’m the extrovert and very outgoing. I always joke that I talk enough for the both of us – but it’s no joke, I really do.

The use of the phrase “opposites attract” is an ideal description of us. However, with that being said, there has to be, and is a large degree of compatibility between us, and this provides a nice balance. It is extremely important for a couple to be able to connect with each other, both emotionally and physically, and we do and I love that about us.

I’m grateful that we connect

We are able to express ourselves to each other in ways that I do know not many couples are capable of. I think this is extremely important as marriage should be about full transparency and without fear of judgement. There are people who connect physically and not emotionally or vice versa – I do believe that our marriage is happy one because of the equilibrium between both. I am comfortable to be myself and have no desire or need to put on a facade in any way.

My husband is my best friend and we have an open and honest marriage, where we are both comfortable to talk to each other about anything and everything. We acknowledge that we have difference of opinions when we do and we respect that, which is perhaps one of the reasons we haven’t ever had a fight…well, not yet. (We began dating in 2011 and got married in 2014)

I think ours is a beautiful love story…

Right now, I can’t recall if I mentioned this in previous posts…so let me share… just so that you know, my husband and I went to school together. So, we met when we were in Class 1 – that was in 1985. We were each other’s first crush. He was the first boy I danced with. He was the first boy I went home and thought about. When I doodled, it was his name with hearts around it. We parted ways when we went to different high schools, so we last saw each other in Standard 5, which was in 1991.

Just over 20 years later, we had our first date in February 2011. I remember it like it was just yesterday, my cheeks hurt by the time I got home because I could not stop smiling throughout that date. I felt like a little girl. It felt like serendipity, it still does. We began dating, it was long distance for just over a year and a half, we lived 400km away from each other. So we got to know each other through emails, which was perfect as we both enjoyed expressing ourselves in this way.

It’s about committment

As the relationship grew, spending weekends together was not enough, which is when he decided to move closer and we then lived with each other. About a year later, we bought a house together. Read about the proposal here, which occurred in 2014. 6 months later, also in 2014, we got married. Just before our 1 year wedding anniversary, we were elated with the news of my pregnancy and on the 21st of July 2016, I became a mother.

Okay…so that was how we met and I am also very grateful for that because I think it’s a great and beautiful love story.

Of course, I sometimes wish he was more outgoing but I will never expect him to become something he is not and I love that he will never stop me from going out and doing things on my own or with friends/family, if he doesn’t want to. Yes, I know there are times he thinks I talk too much and wishes I would give my mouth a break but I know he loves me anyway.

It’s about Trust…

We have Trust - PeanutGallery247

I think the most important thing in our marriage is that we have trust and I do believe that when you have trust, everything else becomes smooth sailing. When I listen to the challenges that other couples are faced with, it makes me even more grateful for the life my husband and I share with each other.

Just when I thought being married was such a blessing, I learned that motherhood is a remarkable feeling on another level, something I had underestimated.

I didn’t plan on this post being so long…so I am going to continue with the joys of motherhood in a separate post.

If you enjoyed reading this and would like to me to write more about the other things in my life that I am grateful for…let me know in your comments below and please feel free to share what you are grateful for too.

5 thoughts on “There is always something to be grateful for – Like My Husband

  1. Destiny brought you together after 20 years.
    I am happy to hear that you and your husband appreciate your connection.

  2. You both are so blessed to have each other.
    Some spouses don’t give their other halves the credit they deserve.
    Your husband reminds me of mine, quite, solid, no pushover. Me, I talk too much. Certainly enough for both of us. Everytime he waits for me, I see his smile and hear his voice and I know I’m safe, Im home. Its been a challenging 27 years of marriage. Shania Twains song, You’re still the one, these words say it all :
    “Looks like we made it
    Look how far we’ve come my baby
    We mighta took the long way
    We knew we’d get there someday
    They said, “I bet they’ll never make it”
    But just look at us holding on
    We’re still together still going strong.”

  3. Hi Nicola

    Love reading anything you write. You mention trust being the key to a happy relationship. My problem is I don’t trust anyone. I’ve been through too much and seen too much that it’s difficult for me to trust. As a result of this my boyfriend and I have had a few disagreements and I’m afraid I will push him away. Maybe you can include your insights oninto trusting your partner in one of your posts.

    Thanks

    1. Hi Natalie, please forgive this very delayed response. I replied on the day you commented…via my mobile and something happened and I lost it…so I decided that I must reply to comments on a laptop and not a mobile anymore.

      I am so glad to hear you enjoy my posts. Thank you for sharing your insecurity. I will certainly try to include more content on Trust. For now however, think about it this way…has your boyfriend done anything for you NOT to trust him? Is the lack of trust from past experiences and if so, why should your boyfriend pay the price now? Life is too short to be anything but happy, so appreciate the NOW and what you have now…in him. If you don’t want to push him away, you’ve got to work on trusting him. Insecurity can be very unattractive to many men…and women. If he does happen to do anything to break that trust, then you have a reason to not trust him but if he hasn’t…then ask yourself…are you being fair to him and your relationship?

      Hope this helps for now. I wish you all the love and happiness in this relationship and on the same note, if he truly wants to be with you…he will be understanding, if you shared some of the reasons for your insecurity…but I am sure he will have limits in terms of tolerance. So chin up, forget about the past and move forward, concentrating on the present and the future.

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