There are just so many things I am grateful for and I wanted to take some time to note those things through a few posts, not just a reminder to myself but also for some inspiration for you, to remind yourself of the things you can and should be grateful for.
My Family – My Husband
First and foremost, I am grateful for my family. I do have the most amazing life partner….my husband and father to our 14-month-old son.
My husband and I are quite the opposites, in that I’m the extrovert and very outgoing. I always joke that I talk enough for the both of us – but it’s no joke, I really do.
The use of the phrase “opposites attract” is an ideal description of us. However, with that being said, there has to be, and is a large degree of compatibility between us, and this provides a nice balance. It is extremely important for a couple to be able to connect with each other, both emotionally and physically, and we do and I love that about us.
I’m grateful that we connect
We are able to express ourselves to each other in ways that I do know not many couples are capable of. I think this is extremely important as marriage should be about full transparency and without fear of judgement. There are people who connect physically and not emotionally or vice versa – I do believe that our marriage is happy one because of the equilibrium between both. I am comfortable to be myself and have no desire or need to put on a facade in any way.
My husband is my best friend and we have an open and honest marriage, where we are both comfortable to talk to each other about anything and everything. We acknowledge that we have difference of opinions when we do and we respect that, which is perhaps one of the reasons we haven’t ever had a fight…well, not yet. (We began dating in 2011 and got married in 2014)
I think ours is a beautiful love story…
Right now, I can’t recall if I mentioned this in previous posts…so let me share… just so that you know, my husband and I went to school together. So, we met when we were in Class 1 – that was in 1985. We were each other’s first crush. He was the first boy I danced with. He was the first boy I went home and thought about. When I doodled, it was his name with hearts around it. We parted ways when we went to different high schools, so we last saw each other in Standard 5, which was in 1991.
Just over 20 years later, we had our first date in February 2011. I remember it like it was just yesterday, my cheeks hurt by the time I got home because I could not stop smiling throughout that date. I felt like a little girl. It felt like serendipity, it still does. We began dating, it was long distance for just over a year and a half, we lived 400km away from each other. So we got to know each other through emails, which was perfect as we both enjoyed expressing ourselves in this way.
It’s about committment
As the relationship grew, spending weekends together was not enough, which is when he decided to move closer and we then lived with each other. About a year later, we bought a house together. Read about the proposal here, which occurred in 2014. 6 months later, also in 2014, we got married. Just before our 1 year wedding anniversary, we were elated with the news of my pregnancy and on the 21st of July 2016, I became a mother.
Okay…so that was how we met and I am also very grateful for that because I think it’s a great and beautiful love story.
Of course, I sometimes wish he was more outgoing but I will never expect him to become something he is not and I love that he will never stop me from going out and doing things on my own or with friends/family, if he doesn’t want to. Yes, I know there are times he thinks I talk too much and wishes I would give my mouth a break but I know he loves me anyway.
It’s about Trust…
I think the most important thing in our marriage is that we have trust and I do believe that when you have trust, everything else becomes smooth sailing. When I listen to the challenges that other couples are faced with, it makes me even more grateful for the life my husband and I share with each other.
Just when I thought being married was such a blessing, I learned that motherhood is a remarkable feeling on another level, something I had underestimated.
I didn’t plan on this post being so long…so I am going to continue with the joys of motherhood in a separate post.
If you enjoyed reading this and would like to me to write more about the other things in my life that I am grateful for…let me know in your comments below and please feel free to share what you are grateful for too.