It’s okay to say “NO”

No matter how kind hearted you are, no matter how good your intentions may be, if someone is pushing you to your limits, they will continue to do so until and unless you set limits. Sometimes saying “No” will help not only yourself, but them too.That is the naked truth about life.

Avoid wasting time on people and things that don’t add value to your life.  Many people are focused on their own needs and will use whatever resources, including YOURSELF, to get what they want.  Don’t be so busy “helping” others, that you deprive/neglect your own needs.

Don’t make someone or something a priority in your life, if it doesn’t add value

If someone doesn’t call you, visit you, respond to your messages or make time and effort to be with you, why do you want to waste your precious time on them? Move on,  there will be someone else or something else who will appreciate you, your time and your effort.

I know this is easier said than done – perhaps it’s the spirit in you that doesn’t want to give up and you’re holding onto something in the hope that it will change. Ask yourself this; if it hasn’t changed by now, do you expect it to change ever? If someone values you, they will make time for you.  Being too busy isn’t a good enough excuse.That, sad, but true, is the naked truth about life.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself

No matter how wonderful you are, no matter how much you’ve done for others, just remember, that if you want something, you’ve got to make an attempt or two or three…to get it! It’s not going to fall on your lap. Stop thinking about how much the world owes you, because in all honesty – it doesn’t matter if you think that – the only way you’re going to get what you want, is if you reach for it. Get over the sense of entitlement…and do it quick.

It’s easy to have a blame mentality and feel or play victim – however, that is not going to help you achieve anything.  Find the Courage to get over whatever it is that is holding you back and strive for what you would like to achieve.

Actions speak louder than words…or thoughts 

You are defined by your actions, not your intentions, no matter how great they may be. Stop overthinking or over talking and instead, start DOING. There is no time better than the present to do all that you think you want to or can do. Talk is cheap they say…some people can get so philosophical in conversations, but are also laughed at because it’s all just talk…nothing more.

Words are very powerful indeed, but they become meaningless if not supported by actions.  Speak less and do more.  When your words turn into actions or gestures of goodwill, you will not need to tell everyone about it as your actions will speak for itself.

Stop waiting to be saved 

Whether it’s the perfect job that you’re waiting for, or a knight in shining armour…I’ve got news for you – no one’s going to save you, but yourself. You’ve got to believe that and the sooner you do, the sooner you can improve your life.

People are busy with their own lives and the last thing someone wants, is to be burdened with the responsiblity of saving someone who can’t even or won’t even try, to save themselves.  You have the power within yourself to decide on how you want your life to be – you’ve just got to believe it.

Stop making excuses for people who treat you badly 

It doesn’t matter if they’ve been hurt before in life, or come from a broken home or anything similar. The truth is, you are here now, with them and if they can’t love and respect you, there is absolutely no excuse for them to treat you badly. If you think there is, then you’re allowing them to treat you badly.

A person who treats you like a doormat, doesn’t respect you – that’s the bottom line.  Don’t feel sad or bad about what made them treat you badly – just know that you don’t deserve such treatment. Don’t lower your standards.  Don’t allow yourself to be abused physically, emotionally or in any other way. It’s not acceptable, period.

Stop selling yourself short

To you, there will always be someone else who is prettier, sexier, more intelligent, etc. Life is not about comparing yourself to others in this manner. Instead, appreciate what you have and make the most of what you have.

You’re unique and to someone else, you’re prettier, sexier and more intelligent. Rock what you got and be unapologetically you, cos there’s no one else in this whole wide world like you! You’re special in your own unique ways.  Start to acknowledge and embrace your unique qualities. Insecurity is unattractive.  Find ways to build your confidence for it will help you to be YOU.

If you “train” your mind to believe in all of the above, your life will improve, for the better.  Focus on finding a sense of purpose and strive to achieve your goals.  Count on yourself first and foremost – any support from anyone else will be a bonus. That, dear readers, is the naked truth about life.